Here are two takes on the leader and follower by Raul Cabral.  Is this too simplistic, too romanticized, too machismo?  There are elements that I like, but by the end of each description I find that I'm more irked than impressed.  Why?

"The Milonguera Dancer and Her Body"

The milonguera's body is pure sensitivity. When she dances, all her senses are sharpened and channelled into her dance. She builds the structure of her body from the base, her feet. Placing her weight on her whole foot including her heels, her energy surges and she stretches her body from her waist upwards as if she were the string of a violin vibrating at the slightest touch. The milonguera is supple, but toned, soft, but with nothing loose (hips, for instance).

Her body is one, whole. She doesn't hang on her partner, weighing him down, but keeps her own balance, thus she is light. She doesn't efface herself, her presence is notable. She glues her chest to her partner's, that is all.

She is sweet through her gentleness - characterizing her femininity -moulding herself to her partner until it feels as if he were wearing her. She waits, follows, never anticipates. She comes along on his voyage, synchronizing her steps, mirroring his, never rushing. She dances close, around him, requiring little space. She neither breaks their contact nor throws her partner off balance.

Not using their embrace to stabilize herself, she keeps her body axis tilted slightly forward, even when walking backwards. Her weight is on the inside of the balls of her feet, but her whole foot, including her heels are in contact with the floor.

The milonguera knows if she separates herself from her partner, she won't get the information from his body. Therefore she is continuously tuned to the messages he emits from his chest. She feels the messages, doesn't analyze them, doesn't think about what he or she is doing.

The milonguera is pure feeling, rediscovering at every instant the magic of tango."

 "The Milonguero Dancer and His Body"

The milonguero is the king of the milongas. The milonguero listens to the music, receives it in his soul, innately searches for the beat as his lungs would search for air. It is then his body speaks - authentically, unalterably.

When he dances his body moves as a unit, neither his arms nor his legs move independently. He doesn't separate the arms, therefore breaking the embrace. Without the embrace, there is nothing. His embrace is firm, but does not asphyxiate his partner, he knows the exact measure. He uses no pressure, he does not lean on her, rather he invites her on a musical voyage.

He never moves his feet first. It's his body as a whole initiating the movement, followed by his legs - never the other way around. Because of this, he neither kicks nor treads on his partner. He steps firmly with his whole foot, thus defining the beat. There is nothing tense or hard in his body. The more flexible he is, the more varied he is able to make his dance.

The milonguero interprets the music he hears, it is as if he becomes another player in the orchestra, using his body like a musical instrument and either stepping to the beat or causing his partner step to it. He never loses contact to the music, never dances out of time. That's why even his simplest movements are beautifully musical.

He leads with his whole body but his main message comes from his chest, the center of affection, which he offers his partner, welcoming her into the home of his body. He never loses his contact with her, not even for an instant and never cuts the flow of this communication between them. From his chest he communicates the sense of direction, the size of the steps, the pauses, the variations of rhythm, etc., etc. The shelter he offers his partner obligates him to take care of and protect her. Therefore, he doesn't collide with other dancers, but skillfully moves in the space available, changing direction with ease, sometimes opting for unorthodox solutions, but absolutely always respecting the flow of the dance floor.

He is a truly good example to follow on your way to discovering your tango dance."